So, who are you?

 

It is human nature to believe that we are complex and mysterious. We think ourselves difficult to understand, unpredictable in nature and capable of layer upon layer of intricate characteristics. These are what make us unique and attractive to others. These are what make others unique and attractive to us. As we move in and out of relationships, we try people on and attempt to figure out who and what might compliment. But why are we so disappointed, so shattered really, when the ONE turns out to be so much less than the one?

The truth is people do tell you exactly who they are. Almost immediately. The signs are there. The writing is on the wall. For all of our mysteriousness, we are who we are and it comes out quite instantly. There is no changing, no training, no magic potion to make the other person suddenly be the person you want them to be. The irony then is that we spend an exhausting amount of time trying to find that particular person we want to spend our lives with, and then spend an inordinate amount of time and effort trying to change them. A recipe for disaster if ever there was one.

(Quote take from Mad Men, Season 4, Episode 8: Summer Man)