Pause and Embrace Your World

Rain falls, wind blows, fire burns, earth turns, and love learns. 

~ LeeLoo, The Fifth Element

As mother nature in all its beauty reminds us of her capable fury, I pause and am thankful for the people in my life. Material things are fun and make for a comfortable existence, but it is the rain that encourages life, the wind that gives faith, the fire that warms the soul, the earth that keeps us grounded and the love that teaches us to appreciate all that we have. Embrace your world, one person at a time.

So, who are you?

 

It is human nature to believe that we are complex and mysterious. We think ourselves difficult to understand, unpredictable in nature and capable of layer upon layer of intricate characteristics. These are what make us unique and attractive to others. These are what make others unique and attractive to us. As we move in and out of relationships, we try people on and attempt to figure out who and what might compliment. But why are we so disappointed, so shattered really, when the ONE turns out to be so much less than the one?

The truth is people do tell you exactly who they are. Almost immediately. The signs are there. The writing is on the wall. For all of our mysteriousness, we are who we are and it comes out quite instantly. There is no changing, no training, no magic potion to make the other person suddenly be the person you want them to be. The irony then is that we spend an exhausting amount of time trying to find that particular person we want to spend our lives with, and then spend an inordinate amount of time and effort trying to change them. A recipe for disaster if ever there was one.

(Quote take from Mad Men, Season 4, Episode 8: Summer Man)

Words

They are the stuff of confusion, confession and chaos. They hurt, cut deep and often destroy. Most are careful with what they say, but often even the most savvy can unintentionally spew a barrage of nastiness that annihilates another human being. But is it possible that when this unfortunate tirade is released, that we are merely speaking from a place of our own hurt, disappointment and regret? Is it possible that we project our shortcomings, failures and cowardice in those moments when instead we should looking within and trying to change ourselves? Perhaps a little self-reflection in the aftermath is warranted. A huge apology couldn’t hurt either.