Divorce - What's It Really About?

I've been thinking a lot lately about how things get "divvied up" when a couple gets divorced.  Billy Crystal said it best in When Harry Met Sally, "this eight dollar dish will cost a thousand dollars of phone calls to the legal firm of That's Mine, This Is Yours."  Unfortunately, in many cases, this is the absolute truth.  Often in a divorce, people get so blinded by the anger and the hurt that they forget about what they are truly fighting for.   It's not really about that dish or the table or the car - it is about betrayal, disappointment and failure.  It isn't even all about the other person.  Often, it really is just about you.

I am a product of divorce and unfortunately, now divorced myself.  While I may be able to point the finger at my ex-husband for many things, I also know he can point the finger right back and, in spades.  It really isn't about who is at fault or about dividing up our lives.  Divorce is really about yourself and reconciling those things within you that contributed to the marriage failing.  Perhaps it was many little things or perhaps it was one big thing - either way, divorce is hard, it's awful and no one wins.  So before you pay that thousand dollars for the eight dollar dish, think about what's really important. 




quote courtesy of When Harry Met Sally
picture courtesy of Bible Prophecy Update - Archive for Marriage and Divorce