Monday, September 29, 2014
If there's one thing I have learned and taken to heart is that people come into your life for a reason. Often, we can't see it, understand it or even believe it but that's the way it works. There are those that appear when you need distraction, those that appear when you need to be shaken to your core. There are those that see you through the hard times, and those that are meant to share successes and happiness. But the most important thing we can learn from these people who come in and out of our lives, is to accept and not always question the why. You see, the why will eventually become clear. And often it isn't the why but simply the what - what were they here to help you through and did you listen? Did you take it to heart and become changed by it? For if you didn't and simply let the aha moment slip away, their presence was merely wasted and you completely unaffected.
Sunday, July 27, 2014
In a perfect word, you would meet the perfect mate, you’d have perfect dates, of course have perfect sex, you'd communicate quite perfectly and live a very blissful, perfect life. Now that you have finished laughing your head off, think about this – perfection aside from being obviously unattainable, would be, in a word, boring. The whole point of life is that while on our quest for impossible perfection, we are meant to experience the awkwardness of meeting perfect strangers, the craziness of dating, the occasional “what was I thinking?” sex, and the comedic miscommunication of what may have been a very significant moment.
Life's truth is that it is imperfect, mistakes are supposed to happen and we are meant to experience it in just that way. The rules are a bit "let's make it up as we go" and you have to dodge the curve balls, and feel the bumps that inevitably come your way. This is what life is made of. This is the stuff of living. Sure, there are glimpses of perfection: an amazing kiss, the full moon illuminating the ocean, the warmth of someone’s hand, the quiet of the morning, the brilliance of the stars. But there’s something about the insanity of it - the rush of the unknown, the adrenaline of excitement, the breathlessness of possibility. Life is not perfect. It is not meant to be perfect. It's messy and chaotic. But, if you think about it, isn't life with all it's imperfections, really the best way to live? Perhaps that's the perfection of it. Maybe, just maybe, it's in the acceptance of the imperfect that we finally attain life's perfection.
Sunday, June 15, 2014
I came across an interesting read about love and how it just is. Not unlike the movie that states, Love actually is all around, the author points out how love is not about excuses or uncertainty but instead is about what is. When someone loves you, there is no question. You know it. You feel it. They find ways to be with you because they want it. Your presence in their life makes their life better. They are the best version of themselves when you are with them. You feed their mind, their heart and their soul. It is a feeling that transcends all boundaries. Love is not supposed to be filled with angst. It is not a game or a puzzle to be mastered or figured out. When someone loves you, you are still and confident in the knowing that they do, without question, without hesitation, without thought. The important thing to remember then as we allow those who say but do not show that they love us is this: “love simply is. And you have to let it be, or not be, naturally.”